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November 2017 Newsletter

Who is Audrey?

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Audrey Nelson PhD. is an international trainer, key-note speaker, consultant and author who works with organizations to increase their productivity and profitability through winning communication. strategies.

You can reach Audrey at
or at 303.448.1800 O -  303-448-1801 F - 303.448.1802 C

Audrey is co-chair of the Diversity and Employee Relations PDG for Mile High SHRM.

SHRMSHRM is a preeminent and globally recognized HR professional society whose leadership, perspective, resources and expertise are sought and utilized to address the most pressing, current and emerging human resource management issues. Mile High SHRM is a Mega Chapter with a 1,000 membership.

Smart Talk

What Happens When a Woman Acts Forcefully?

The news is full of accounts and requests for women to be “fierce” and speak up. Easier said than done. Ask senior executive women. Many women move fast and gain the recognition due to simple metrics: they increase profits. A recent Lean In/McKinsey & Company survey of 132 companies and 34,000 employees found that women who negotiated for promotions were 30% more likely to be labeled intimidating, bossy and
aggressive. The same old, same old, right? He is the boss and she is bossy. The same double edged sword and double standard. Bottom line, when women act forcefully, research suggests that men are more likely to react badly.

Another variable to add into the equation is the ever constant unconscious bias that women need to be likeable. It is referred to as the likeability factor. Be nice, don’t rock the boat and smile a lot. Maybe that is why women more than men excessively smile?

Finally, self-promotion (also known as selling yourself) is taboo for women but a necessity to rise to the C-suite. It is acceptable for men to mention their last big client they scored but not for her.
Add to this mix that other women sometimes do not support women who are ambitious.

What is a woman to do? A very tuff call!

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Audrey presented He Speaks, She Speaks to a Linguistics class at the University of Colorado, Boulder.



Leadership Beyond Borders, an international internet radio show that broadcasts from Prague, will host Audrey on the topic of what it takes to drive long term success and leadership. LBB is about the impact of globalization on organizations and its implications for leadership: for more information.

Audrey’s program, A Woman’s Guide to Leadership was competitively selected for the Mile High SHRM 2018 HR Conference on January 19, 2018, at the Marriott Tech Center, Denver, Colorado. 

Audrey's Blog

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Audrey’s blog?

Lady CFO: A Case of Unconscious Bias

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WOW! Did you know Audrey is the gender communication blogger for Psychology Today? Check out her monthly blog postings.
Take a look at her statistics:

7 Days: 4,542

30 Days: 18,625

90 Days: 52,741

All Time: 882,597

Audrey's Travels!
Audrey Nelson PhD Audrey presented He Speaks, She Speaks to the Woman’s Summit for Smart Meetings at the Ritz Carlton, Denver. Click the below links to view

When a woman asks a question

The Concept of Androgyny

What People are saying about Audrey

Hello Audrey,

I work for AmeriGas Propane – we are a national distributor of propane. This year we have just launched a women’s group called Women’s Impact Network.  The propane industry is a male dominated industry and we are trying to achieve a better gender balance at AmeriGas. My colleagues have attended your workshops and I have read your books and we like your messaging around gender communication.  We think that would resonate with our group.  I wondered if you ever do any online webinars on this topic? Our geography makes a live event not practical. Please let me know?

A fan,

Justine Staub
Director, Communications
& Workforce Development
AmeriGas Propane

I’ve had the incredible opportunity to participate in two different sessions led by Audrey, the first event being a session hosted by the Leadership Initiative at the Denver Convention Center. This inspired our company’s women’s network to host a half-day workshop focused on He Speaks, She Speaks: What Different Things They Say for women in leadership. Audrey’s presentations are colored with great examples, and she is phenomenal at interacting with the audience in both keynote and workshop settings. She doesn’t just scratch the surface of communications concepts, but really dives in, imparting a wealth of knowledge and strategies in a short time. Even in an anomalous corporate culture, the topics Audrey covers are incredibly relevant. I love that I walked away with actionable steps and tips to improve my communication style and I’m confident that I will become a better influencer after participating in Audrey’s Women in Leadership workshop.  

–Beatrix K.

Thank you for the wonderful start to the week – I enjoyed the morning session and your keynote on Monday!  One of my best friends (and dearest colleagues) has often called me out on over-apologizing, but it wasn’t until I heard it in the video you played that it truly hit home.  I thought to myself, “is that REALLY what I sound like?”  Since then, I have caught myself apologizing a few times where a simple “excuse me” was appropriate – and this morning, I actually caught myself before I said anything and course-corrected in the moment.  Victory!  (Or at least one small step in the right direction!)


(employees from a leading investment services firm with more total assets than any publicly traded investment services firm in the U.S. 30.04 Trillion in client assests).

IMS Philadelphia A Women’s Guide to Leadership

  • This course is great. Very engaging and informative.
  • Very insightful and empowering. Full of good references and I am enjoying the examples and anecdotes.
  • Great! Giving me a lot to think about. Excellent.
  • Very interactive. Kept my attention the entire time!
Audrey's Books

The Gender Communication Handbook –
Conquering Conversational Collisions Between Men and Women


The Gender Communication Handbook is for anyone who works with the opposite sex. If you are a part of a management team, in HR, or develop corporate training, this book is a comprehensive guide filled with smart advice, extensive research, self-assessments, and compelling true-to-life case studies. More

Code Switching –
How to Talk so Men will Listen

Code Switching

Code Switching  is a hands-on tool for everyday use at the office. It is a practical resource with how-to steps to help businesswomen conquer the communication nuances between men and women in the workplace. This book explores the gender impact on business talk. - More

You Don’t Say – Navigating Nonverbal Communication Between the Sexes


You Don't Say is the first book to explore the misunderstandings that often arise between the sexes due to nonverbal communication — and to show readers how to say what they mean and get what they want. More than words, it's nonverbal cues that have the power to improve — or impair — our interactions with the opposite sex at home and in the workplace.

"Audrey's Top 4 CD Communication Hits"


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