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August 2016 Newsletter

Who is Audrey?

Audrey's Blog

Audrey Nelson PhD. is an international trainer, key-note speaker, consultant and author who works with organizations to increase their productivity and profitability through winning communication. strategies.

You can reach Audrey at
or at 303.448.1800 O -  303-448-1801 F - 303.448.1802 C

Audrey is co-chair of the Diversity and Employee Relations PDG for Mile High SHRM.

SHRMSHRM is a preeminent and globally recognized HR professional society whose leadership, perspective, resources and expertise are sought and utilized to address the most pressing, current and emerging human resource management issues. Mile High SHRM is a Mega Chapter with a 1,000 membership.

Smart Talk

Are Women Queen Bees? The Truth Behind the Myth

There are so many popular myths and stereotypes about women and men. For example, you have heard people say women talk more than men. You know, “chatty Kathy.” When in fact, the study of turn taking in groups and who gets the floor, demonstrates that men get the floor more often than women, women are the recipients of more interruptions by both men and other women and when men get the floor, they keep it longer. It is always a good idea to take a hard look at some of these myths.
Here is another one: women are the queen of gossip and they tend to be more catty than men which produce Queen Bees. Recently, in the New York Times, Sheryl Sandberg and Adam Grant addressed the complexity of this interpersonal and widespread held belief. Adding insult to injury, many people believe that the biggest enemy of women is a powerful woman.

Ouch! So much for sisterhood, right?

In my own research on the Queen Bee syndrome I found that some powerful women who make their way to the top are not interested in helping other women climb the latter. According to Queen Bee theory, a female senior manager should have a more negative impact on other professional women. When strategy professors studied the top management of the Standard & Poor’s 1,500 companies over 20 years, they found what they thought support this notion- when one woman reached senior management, it was 51% less likely a second woman would make it. On closer examination, the person blocking the second woman’s advancement wasn’t a Queen Bee; it was a male executive. When a woman was made chief executive, the opposite was true and woman had a better chance of joining senior management than when the chief executive was a man.

The popular idea is women are not supportive of other women who are attempting to move up the professional ranks. Sandberg and Grant claim otherwise and, of course, Sandberg herself is one of the most powerful women in corporate America as COO of Facebook and can speak from personal experience.

Queen Bees exist but they are far less common than we think.

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Audrey's Travels

Audrey presented Victors without Victims: Managing Conflict for a Positive Outcome for the Federation of Defense and Corporate Council in Atlanta.

FDCCThe Federation of Defense & Corporate Counsel (FDCC), is composed of recognized leaders in the legal community who have achieved professional distinction, is dedicated to promoting knowledge, fellowship, and professionalism of its members as they pursue the course of a balanced justice system and represent those in need of a defense in civil lawsuits. 



Audrey for IMS Denver with 50 women for A Women’s Guide to Leadership: Power, Communication and Credibility.

Audrey presented A Women’s Guide to Leadership: Power, Communication and Credibility. to Leprino Foods Denver

Sound Bites

sound bitesWomen and Emotional Endurance at Work

• Emotional endurance requires resiliency.
• When the going gets tough, the tough get going.
• A resilient woman knows that the best antidote to despair is action.
• She does not retreat in the face of adversity.. .

What People are saying about Audrey

He Speaks, She Speaks: What Different Things They Say

National Association of Pension Advisors

Loved your presentation. You are an inspiration!

Barbara Delaney
National Association of Pension Advisors

Audrey –
You were terrific.  I loved your energy and presentation. 

Amy Glynn
Managing Partner
GRP Advisor Alliance

Hi Audrey, 

Thank you again for speaking at NAPA Connect! Your presentation was fantastic, and Erin will reach out if there are any future speaking opportunities. 
Best Regards, 

Kaitlin A. CounihanDirector of Digital Marketing
American Retirement Association

Audrey's Books

The Gender Communication Handbook –
Conquering Conversational Collisions Between Men and Women


The Gender Communication Handbook is for anyone who works with the opposite sex. If you are a part of a management team, in HR, or develop corporate training, this book is a comprehensive guide filled with smart advice, extensive research, self-assessments, and compelling true-to-life case studies. More

Code Switching –
How to Talk so Men will Listen

Code Switching

Code Switching  is a hands-on tool for everyday use at the office. It is a practical resource with how-to steps to help businesswomen conquer the communication nuances between men and women in the workplace. This book explores the gender impact on business talk. - More

You Don’t Say – Navigating Nonverbal Communication Between the Sexes


You Don't Say is the first book to explore the misunderstandings that often arise between the sexes due to nonverbal communication — and to show readers how to say what they mean and get what they want. More than words, it's nonverbal cues that have the power to improve — or impair — our interactions with the opposite sex at home and in the workplace.

"Audrey's Top 4 CD Communication Hits"


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