The Importance of "Face Giving" in Communication
For the last two Smart Talk columns (November and December 2014) I have addressed the importance of face in both everyday communication and how it can have an adverse impact in conflict. Face-giving is something we should be doing daily with our spouses, children, co-workers and, yes, even our boss! Face-giving is defined as when we work with people to restore face or prevent loss of face. There are two types:
1. Corrective face-giving: This occurs after loss of face.
2. Defensive face-giving: This is a proactive measure, meant to prevent loss of face in the first place.
In communication, the behaviors are "alignment actions" which can be excuses, apologies, counter claims, justifications, and conversational repairs. When people use these strategies, they are not only intended to give face but also to signal sensitivity to face concerns.
Communication that is "other oriented" or "person-centered" is intended to support, comfort or confirm the person. This speech gives face and also helps one to restore face. Face-saving can be used to encourage productive conflict management and promote a safe, nondefensive environment.
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 Don't Qualify it! Just Say it!
A technique employed by women more than men is the use of qualifiers.
Just say it; don 't qualify it! Another technique employed by women more than men is the use of qualifiers. Here are some common qualifiers (in italics) used by women:- watch
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