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December 2012 Newsletter
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Who is Audrey?

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Crying as Communication:
The Function and Gender Quotient

And if the boy have not a woman's gift to rain shower of commanded tears, an onion will do well for such a shift.


Recently, there was an excellent article in the New York Times, I Cry, Therefore I am, on the origins and cultural perspective of crying. I get asked a lot about crying in the workplace. Overall, most folks feel uncomfortable when someone cries. A further look at crying might reduce this uneasy feeling.

A couple of things to consider:

  • Tears protect the eyes by keeping it moist by producing antimicrobial protein.

  • The more emphatic you are, the more likely you will cry (remember a sign of high emotional intelligence
    is the ability to empathize  with others).

  • People report feeling happier after they cry (although crying is often associated with sadness).

  • The less hierarchical the social-class structure, the more tears flow.

  • People prefer to cry with a woman-maybe because women tend to be more empathetic.
  • Women cry more than men-they are more expressive.

  • Some people claim when a woman cries, "she is on her way to getting what she wants."
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Audrey Nelson

Audrey Nelson PhD. is an international trainer, key-note speaker, consultant and author who works with organizations to increase their productivity and profitability through winning communication strategies.
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Audrey is a member of the American Society of Training and Development and the Colorado Human Resource Association.

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Where in the world is Audrey

arrowStanford Hospital and Clinics
Victors without Victims
December 7, 2012
8am to 3 pm
Education Center Palo Alto

Victors without Victims
December 13, 2012
5 pm to 6:30 pm
4 Brocade Parkway, Broomfield CO

The Art of Conscious Communication
December 14, 2012
11:30 am to 1 pm.
5500 S. Quebec Street

arrowHewlett Packard
Your Generation or Mine
January 16, 2013
Ft Collins

arrowSouthern Colorado Women's Chamber of Commerce
He Speaks, She Speaks
January 15, 2013
11:30 am to 1 pm
The Warehouse - Colorado Springs

Have you checked out Audrey’s blog?

Most Direct to Least Direct: How Does She Ask the Question? - Click for article

FOX Evening News


October 2012
Women in the Workplace: Why They Leave and What They Want
FOX Evening News
Click here for segment

Audrey has been asked to be the guest expert on communication and Code Switching for FOX 31 Denver Everyday Show
June 25, 2012
Mr. Mom is Back!
Everyday Talk Show Fox 31
KDVR-TV, Denver
Click here for segment



Audrey had an article in the Colorado Human Resource Association newsletter based on her new book (co-author), The Gender Communication Handbook: Conquering Conversational Collisions Between Men and Women
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What People are saying about Audrey


We did hear from one person who only listened on the phone that they will be watching the recording to see your facial expressions. 
The other comments I’ve received were that you were very engaging and kept their attention the entire time. 
I hope that we will be able to work with you in 2013.  I also want you to  know that we enjoyed the presentation and received very positive feedback.

Thank you,
Lockheed Martin Space Systems Company
Military Support Program Engineering Manager

Dear Audrey,

The CIO Women’s Forum and all who participated enjoyed your webinar presentation on He Speaks, She Speaks. Although there were a couple of technical difficulties at the start, I appreciate your understanding as we worked things out. I was also glad that we had a great question and answer session. Even the men spoke up, which is wonderful, considering many men were skeptical about the “Women’s” Forum in the beginning. We received great feedback from many who loved your presentation!
Again, thank you for your  superb presentation! We  were delighted to have you speak for the CIO Women’s Forum.

Sarah Contreras
IT Specialist
Chief Information Office
USDA, Forest Service


You were a resounding success!  People were still talking about things you raised last evening at a reception and many of the spouses wished they had been there to hear you.
Thank you for everything!

Melanie G. May, Chief Judge
Fourth District Court of Appeal

Audrey's Books

The Gender Communication Handbook –
Conquering Conversational Collisions Between Men and Women


The Gender Communication Handbook is for anyone who works with the opposite sex. If you are a part of a management team, in HR, or develop corporate training, this book is a comprehensive guide filled with smart advice, extensive research, self-assessments, and compelling true-to-life case studies. More

Code Switching –
How to Talk so Men will Listen

Code Switching

Code Switching  is a hands-on tool for everyday use at the office. It is a practical resource with how-to steps to help businesswomen conquer the communication nuances between men and women in the workplace. This book explores the gender impact on business talk. - More

You Don’t Say – Navigating Nonverbal Communication Between the Sexes


You Don't Say is the first book to explore the misunderstandings that often arise between the sexes due to nonverbal communication — and to show readers how to say what they mean and get what they want. More than words, it's nonverbal cues that have the power to improve — or impair — our interactions with the opposite sex at home and in the workplace.

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