March 2010 Newsletter
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The Transparent Communicator

Last month I addressed the opaque communicator (OC). Employing the Johari Window quadrants, I suggested the opaque communicator generally operates from the “hidden” quadrant and, occasionally, may come from the “blind” quadrant. The result is we feel uncomfortable interacting with an OC style. Decision making suffers, the trust level is low and the bottom line may be impacted.
In contrast the transparent communicator is “open” from the Johari Window perspective; what is known by the person is generally known by others. There is little information or communication withheld and there is a lot of spontaneity. This creates an atmosphere of high trust and relaxation. People are more productive and morale is high. No hidden agendas.
Now a word of warning. I am not suggesting TC translates into a “let it all hang out” style of communication. The TC understands the appropriateness of the context and what gets revealed when and to whom. We often know these people as honest communicators characterized by sensitivity of disclosure.

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Where in the world is Audrey?

March 2, 2010 | 8:30 am to 4 pm
Boulder County
He Speaks, She Speaks:
What Different Things They Say

Pearl Street Training Room

March 3, 2010 - 12-12:35 pm
Women in Science, Engineering and Mathematics Program
Code Switching: How to Talk so Men will Listen
Colorado School of Mines
Golden, Colorado

March 11, 2010
Averett College and Danville Chamber of Commerce
Code Switching: How to talk so Men will Listen
7pm Keynote and book signing

March 23, 2010 - 8:45 am to 10 am
2010 Women’s Conference
"Getting Connected  & Staying Connected"

Opening Keynote:
Code switching: How to Talk so Men will Listen

1:30 pm to 2:30 pm The Twelve A’s to Axe
Sydney, Nebraska -

March 31, 2010
United States Forest Service
Code Switching: How to Talk so Men so will Listen
Missoula, Montana -

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Code Switching with Audre

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Code Switching: How to Talk so Men will Listen
Claire Brown Ph.D. and Audrey Nelson Ph.D.
Penguin Group-Alpha Books
ISBN 978-1-59257-926-6

Code Switching: How to Talk so Men will Listen is a hands-on tool for everyday use at the office. It is a practical resource with how-to steps to help businesswomen conquer the communication nuances between men and women in the workplace. This book explores the gender impact on business talk. It teaches using true stories and case studies, while providing valuable “code-switching” tips to help women gain and strengthen credibility and make a greater impact on the job

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What People are saying about Audrey

Dear Audrey:
On behalf of the American Society of Civil Engineer Southern Colorado Branch ,I would like to extend a big “thank you” for speaking at our annual engineers dinner . I found your presentation both entertaining and informative. Your students at CU Boulder were very lucky to have had such a passionate professor!
Rich Eastland
ASCE Vice President

Lokey School of Business, Mills College
Keynote: Code Switching: How to Talk so Men will Listen
Thank you for an incredibly well-received event.  It’s always a bit of a leap-of-faith when you invite a speaker, but you did a superb job and we’ve received such great feedback from young students and old hands alike.

I hope we will be able to work together again in the near future.

All the best,
Cynthia Kopec
Women’s Financial Association of San Francisco

Thank you Audrey.  I thoroughly enjoyed our time together on air.  The book is great.  There are so many ways to change, to switch your coding!  I have begun already to use them.  My kids are an amazing experiment.  They are the only kids I have so it's hard for me to imagine parenting a singleton.  Having two girls and a boy gives us the opportunity to see the very real differences that exist between the genders.  For example, my son was walking around today with underpants on his head while his sisters were taking turns doing math problems.  
It was very good of you to join us Audrey.  Thank you again.
Pat Thurston
KGO Radio
San Francisco

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