Nelson Ph.D. Inc
Jerry Springer Phenomena Misery Loves
I was channel
surfing when I was getting ready to do a keynote and came across
The Jerry Springer Show. I am not a fan of television and regard
it as basically a waste land. I had read critiques and heard second
hand about the format and drama formula of his show. In case you
have been fortunate enough never to see this show the formula
includes some unbelievable painful relationship story that is
always twisted and pathetic. A bouncer is on hand to deal with
the inevitable duke out. When I tuned in two women were punching
each other. I thought who watches this stuff? And I also thought
about the consulting work I do in environments that includes folks
similar to the players (“guests”) on the Springer
show. I can draw a parallel here. There are people who are unhappy
in their own lives and by watching the Springer show they are
comforted to know they are not alone and there are people who
have even more unhappiness. Misery loves company. They also play
high drama (making small things big) and they often try to stir
the pot. I call it, “lets you and him fight.” I also
have observed that they associate with these people often prodding
them to “act up”.
Some quick tips:
- Name the
game it is harder to play the game. Let them know you know what
they are doing. They count on “hiding out.”
Ask them to stop bringing up the “sore subject.”
Talk to the players and encourage them not to take the bait.
Ask them to try to be less reactive.
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Audrey just signed a contract for her second book with Alpha
Books, division of Prentice Hall.
On bookstore shelves November 2009.
Code Switching: How to Talk so Men will Listen (working
has been invited to be a guest columnist for the Daily Camera
Women’s Magazine. Her column “Relationship Rx”
debut was the September issue: “Why women
think men don’t listen” p. 15.
for Audrey’s column in the November issue of Women’s
Magazine “The Crying game”
The Web site, www.womensmag.com,
for Audrey’s article in jobing.com
in the world is Audrey
National Sports Center
for the Disabled
Art of Conscious Communication
Winter Park, Colorado
Denver Metro Chamber
“Lunch n Learn”
Go Home and Put on
Has Casual Friday
Gone Over the Top?
People are saying about Audrey
so much for the wonderful keynote address you gave at the IABC Southern
Your talk rekindled in me my love of communication studies. I've been
working in corporate communication doing mktg/PR for 10 years and
have been struggling with "what's next." Although my current
job helped me to earn my masters in communication... hearing about
someone who has been so successful in communication has inspired me
to start researching Ph.D programs.
Hoping our paths cross again. I'll be watching for you on Oprah!
Communications Specialist, Corporate Marketing & Communications
Dear Dr. Audrey:
I really, really thought your September 29 presentation was wonderful
at the IABC Southern Region conference in Denver. You spoke so
many truths….I have a co-worker who comes into my office
and starts the conversation with, “Are you overwhelmed today?”
My masculine side wants her to just tell me she needs help on
a project, and I’ll figure out how to weave it in and get
it accomplished. . I exited from your Denver session, told you
how very, very much I got out of your presentation and then had
to rush off to do my own presentation … before I could buy
a copy of your book. Please help me overcome my sinful ways. Please
tell me how big a check to write and where to send it. That was
direct and masculine, but my feminine side told a story (above)
I thought enough of your presentation that I forwarded your bio
information to IABC headquarters in San Francisco. And I’ve
read all of the articles on your website today, too.
Thanks for your support and causing me to think. –Connie
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