February 2008 Newsletter
Audrey Nelson Ph.D, Inc

Smart Talk
No is not a Four Letter Word: Setting Boundaries and Maintaining Relationships

One of the most difficult words to communicate is No. The finesse to say NO and maintain the other person’s dignity requires skill. No is often a Yes to yourself. No is also setting boundaries. You want the other to change their behavior and, often, you want to keep the relationship. Saying No does not mean you cannot have a positive outcome. Saying No is an exercise in persuasion, not just communication. People with good assertive skills practice saying No on a daily basis! A few tips to saying No:

  1. Offer another option.
  2. Offer options for joint gain.
  3. Say No to behavior by making your request specific (I would like you to give me a 24 hr notice when you need our latest quarterly report.)
  4. Always respect the other person.
  5. End on a positive note.
Monthly Articles

Amy Oliver Show - Dec 2007
"The Hillary Card: How The Gender Card Will Play Out in the 2008 Election"
and "He Speaks, She Speaks"
Click to hear interview

"Hey, Let me finish!"
Fall 2007
click here to view article

"The Evil Twins:
Email and Voicemail"

Fall 2007
click here to view article

"First Person Essay: My Other Ex"
Dec 2007
click here to view article

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"Where in the World is Audrey?"

SUN Microsystems
He Speaks, She Speaks

February 14th
11:30 am-1pm
SUN Broomfield Campus
Conference Center
Open to all professional women (Free!)
Registration/Information: Carol Neustadter
RSVP by February 12th

The Organization for Research on Women and Communication (ORWAC)
Little known fact: Audrey was one of the founding members of ORWAC (approximately 30 years ago!). She also served as President.
The Organization for Research on Women and Communication (ORWAC) promotes dialogue, discussion, research, and scholarship concerned with women, gender, oppression, and social change. ORWAC is a Western States Communication Association (WSCA) affiliate, publishes the journal Women's Studies in Communication, and sponsors programs at the WSCA Convention. Audrey was invited by ORWAC to participate on a panel that will address how and what has changed in the status of women for the last 30 years!

Monday Feb 18, 2008
2:00 - 3:15 pm
Omni Interlocken Resort
500 Interlocken Blvd
Broomfield, CO 80021

This roundtable pursues the conference theme of “engaging service” in relation to ORWAC, its mission, members and the discipline. Uniting past and present leaders of ORWAC, panelists will pursue questions such as: Why was ORWAC first conceived? Do those needs remain? In what ways does and might ORWAC serve its members, in the present and future? Audience contributions desired and encouraged.

Business and Professional Women
Nice Girls Don’t Do Conflict
Spice of Life, Flatirons Country Club
Boulder, CO
February 21, 2008
5:30 pm-8pm
Registration and Information: Tobi Hunt

What People are saying about Audrey

By the way, you got RAVE reviews. Many of the people that wrote comments said it was the best presentation they have been to and others wrote that they wanted you back. Yeah, Audrey!!

Carole J. Crane, SPHR, RCC
Vice President, Senior Consultant

Farm Credit Council Services
Foundation of Management
Dr. Audrey Nelson - Managing Conflict for a Positive Outcome
Joint 13 Leadership Development Program

Comments about instructor:

  • Extremely insightful and interactive.
  • Good illustrations to make her points.
  • Website provides information that I have shared at my office and is a valuable tool.
    Thank you!
  • Again - dynamic and energetic.
  • Outstanding.
  • Wish I had an "Audrey Button"!
  • Audrey is very knowledgeable and able to hold audience attention at all times; very
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