have developed a list of the “Seven Most Asked Questions”
which have been generated by my audiences in my gender communication
course “He Speaks,She Speaks: What Different Things They
Say.” One of the questions is “Haven’t things
Changed? Below is an email I received from a woman with the US
Forest Service who had my He Speaks,She Speaks class 15 years
ago and again in April 2006. I think she addressed the time it
takes for social change and real attitude change. We all certainly
know the “politically correct” thing to do. But have
attitudes really changed? Or, as you would say to your parents
on those long road trips, “Are we there yet?”
What do you think?
Read below this woman’s account.
Fifteen years ago I took the class He Speaks, She Speaks. It was
by far the most important training of any kind that I have ever
received. At the time I was both newly married and in a predominately
male workforce. Your class not only helped me learn to adjust
my communication style which helped me become more effective in
the workforce, it brought a great deal of awareness to differences
in communication styles between my husband and me. The understanding
that came out of your class made what could have been a very painful
experience of learning how to effectively communicate with each
other not only easier but something we continue to find humor
in to this day.
Fifteen years later I’m still in a male dominated workforce,
still married and now a mother of a girl and a boy. Having a different
perspective on life, I very much enjoyed taking your class again.
I found the information about the hormone wash particularly interesting,
which could possibly explain some of the differences, I see in
myself and in our daughter. I think I got the wash - she did not.
I was also fascinated by the information on nature/nurture and
where the researchers are with those studies. Just as the first
class saved my husband and I from endless frustration, I anticipate
that what I learned from this session will save me from much frustration
with our children, especially when trying to figure out why some
things seem to make sense to my son that would never occur to
my daughter. Harvey and I talk a lot about how the kids are so
different yet we think we are raising them the same. Yesterday
cleared some of that up.
United States Forest Service